This is my answer to the Quora question “What can I learn/know right now in 10 minutes that will be useful for the rest of my life?”
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Learn How to Master Your Habits
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”
Your life today is the result of your habits from the past:
- How in shape you are is a result of your habits.
- How educated you are is a result of your habits.
- How happy you are is a result of your habits.
- How much money you have is a result of your habits.
- How good your relationships are is a result of your habits.
I could keep going, but I’m sure you get the point. As the late, great Jim Rohn used to say: ”Success is nothing more than a few disciplines, practiced every day. Failure is a nothing more than a few errors, repeated every day.”
So, if you want to lead a successful life, it’s crucial that you learn how to master your habits. Here’s how.
[Note from Patrik: If you find this answer interesting and would like to learn more research-backed strategies for behavior change, check out my FREE resource “Habits: The Definitive Guide to Lasting Change.“]
The Habit Loop
According to researchers at MIT, all habits follow the same neurological loop1:
- A cue — The trigger that starts your habit. Example: You get an email notification.
- A routine — The habit that follows the cue. Example: You open the email.
- A reward — The benefit you gain from doing the habit. Example: You get to know what the email is about.
If you perceive the reward as positive, you’ll want to repeat the loop again the next time the cue shows up. If you repeat it enough times, it will become a habit.
The habit loop is a very useful framework because it makes it easy to dismantle your habits and manipulate its different parts.
Let’s go through each of the habit loop parts and look at the most powerful strategies for mastering them.
1. The Cue
Most people have very vague intentions for the habits they want to create.
Unfortunately, as you may have noticed, telling yourself that ”I’ll work out three times this week” rarely works.
And that’s because you haven’t created a proper cue for the behavior.
To build a solid habit, you need to know exactly when and where it will be taking place.
A stupid simple, yet incredibly powerful way of doing that, is to use ”If —> Then” statements2. You do that by completing the following statement:
If [situational cue], Then I will [planned response to the cue].
For example: ”If I’m leaving work on a Monday, Wednesday, or Friday —> Then I will go to the gym.”
Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of this strategy. More than 200 studies have shown that people who use If —> Then planning are about 300 percent more likely than others to reach their goals3.
2. The Routine
When we create new habits, we tend to want big results fast.
And because of that, we try to create big changes.
The problem, of course, is that it rarely works. Instead, what typically happens is that we overwhelm ourselves and quit shortly after we’ve started.
To avoid that trap, you need to make a simple shift in your mindset.
Instead of obsessing over the results, start obsessing over showing up.
Forget about the long-term results, and instead make the habit so ridiculously easy you can’t say no4.
Go for a five-minute walk. Meditate for two minutes. Read one page in a book.
Build motivation and momentum by setting yourself up for, and celebrating, small wins.
Then, when the behavior is well established, you can incrementally increase your efforts.
3. The Reward
To reinforce your habit, you need to reward yourself for doing it.
That can feel a bit awkward, especially in the beginning when the behavior is easy to do.
But the thing is, you aren’t celebrating your results. You’re celebrating your ability to show up.
Stanford psychologist and behavior expert BJ Fogg suggests you think f it this way5:
”The fact that you’re learning to change your behavior is a big deal. Think how rare a skill it is. Think how long behavior change has eluded you. And now you are succeeding.”
Don’t celebrate your five-minute walk. Celebrate that you’ve taken another successful step to improve your life.
Allow yourself to do a quick fist-pump, short victory dance, or exclaim a proud ”yay, me!” each time you complete your habit.
Your brain will associate your habit with your reward. And that, in turn, will make it likelier you’ll keep doing it in the future.
Breaking Bad Habits
The Habit Loop isn’t just helpful for creating good habits. It’s also very useful for getting rid of unwanted behaviors. All you have to do is analyze and manipulate the different parts of the already existing loop. Here’s how.
1. Remove the Cues
First, think about how you can cut out unhelpful cues. For example:
- If you smoke when you drink, don’t go to the bar.
- If you eat unhealthy snacks when you have them around the house, throw them out.
- If you watch too much TV, put the TV remote in another room (or put the TV in the garage).
Try to remove as many triggers as possible from your environment. In psychology, this is referred to as ”stimulus control.” 6
2. Change the Routines
Then, use If —> Then plans to replace unwanted routines. For example:
- If I get the urge to smoke –> Then I will play Tetris.
- If I feel like eating a snack –> Then I will have a fruit.
- If I want to turn on the TV –> Then I will read two pages in a great book.
The key here is to experiment with different routines to find substitutes that work for you.
3. Remove the Rewards
And finally, come up with creative ways to remove the rewards associated with your bad habit.
Let’s say you want to stop drinking alcohol. One way of removing the rewards associated with drinking is to take Antabuse7. That will replace the pleasant short-term effects of alcohol with a reaction that is so unpleasant that you’d rather abstain from drinking.
Thanks for Reading!
I hope you found this answer useful. If you did, I’d be very grateful if you upvote it on Quora so others can find it as well.
If you’d like to learn more about behavior change, check out my FREE resource “Habits: The Definite Guide to Lasting Change.”
Good luck mastering your habits!